“I think above all else. At the end of the day, the character of a person matters the most. The deeds they have done, the person that they are, how they treat others, how they treat themselves, their intentions, honesty, and the convictions that they stand by. Everything else like looks or success matter very little.”—(via psych-facts)
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”—Steve Maraboli (via observando)
“I’m just trying to be Jason Collins," Collins said before donning the home whites on Monday. "What Jackie Robinson did for the sport of baseball and our society is tremendous. But I am just trying to be Jason Collins.”—
Jason Collins, the one and only, on why he’s not interested in being “the Jackie Robinson of our generation.” I love this man. (via the Huffington Post)
“Books may not change our suffering, books may not protect us from evil, books may not tell us what is good or what is beautiful, and they will certainly not shield us from the common fate of the grave. But books grant us myriad possibilities: the possibility of change, the possibility of illumination.”—Alberto Manguel (via victoriousvocabulary)
“Sometimes, you read a book and it fills you with this weird evangelical zeal, and you become convinced that the shattered world will never be put back together unless and until all living humans read the book. And then there are books;which you can’t tell people about, books so special and rare and yours that advertising your affection feels like a betrayal.”—John Green (via sunst0ne)
“A stranger can see in an instant something in you that you might spend years learning about yourself. How awful we all are when we look at ourselves under a light, finally seeing our reflections. How little we know about ourselves. How much forgiveness it must take to love a person, to choose not to see their flaws, or to see those flaws and love the person anyway. If you never forgive you’ll always be alone.”—Stephen Elliott, The Adderall Diaries (via sunst0ne)
“You can wipe your feet on me, twist my motives around all you like, you can dump millstones on my head and drown me in the river, but you can’t get me out of the story. I’m the plot, babe, and don’t ever forget it.”—Margaret Atwood, from Good Bones (via violentwavesofemotion)
“I am clouded and bruised with the print of minds and faces and things so subtle that they have smell, colour, texture, substance but no name.”—Virginia Woolf, from The Waves (via violentwavesofemotion)
“A library is never complete. That’s the joy of it. We are always seeking one more book to add to our collection.”—Catherynne M. Valente, The Girl Who Fell Beneath Fairyland and Led the Revels There. (via falling-inlove-with-books)
“There’s nothing wrong with reading a book you love over and over. When you do, the words get inside you, become a part of you, in a way that words in a book you’ve read only once can’t.”—Gail Carson Levine, Writing Magic: Creating Stories that Fly. (via bookporn)
“You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything…affects everything.”—Jay Asher, Thirteen Reasons Why (via observando)
“I think people’s attitudes need to change at a deep psychological level about how they view these different personality styles. For introverts particularly, to get rid of the guilt and the shame that they feel about who they are, but also for how the world looks at them.
As far as the world is concerned, I’ll give you three concrete places where it needs to change. Number one is in the establishment of psychology itself. What I do in my research, I was actually amazed at how biased psychology is against introversion. I expected it not to be that way because so many psychologists are introverts themselves. But I think it’s just the nature of the field that it mirrors whatever the biases are at the current time. So it used to be biased against homosexuality, biased against introversion and other stuff too. Right now, for example, they’re in a process of revising the diagnostics manual. And the last I heard is they’re considering an entry for something called introverted personality disorder. And that, to me, is just appalling.”—It’s OK to Eat Alone: Q&A with Susan Cain (the author of Quiet)
There is also a bias of relying on a gender binary to categorize study populations even though gender is far too complex and variable to provide reliable categories, and gender is largely socially constructed as it is.
“One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities. And through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way. As someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in this world.”—Susane Colasanti (via larmoyante)